Unfortunately, as I was soon to discover, a 22-year age gap can become a yawning chasm when reality bites.
So when I read that one leading law firm has noticed a marked rise in separations involving younger husbands filing for divorce – up by a third in three years – it rang horribly true.
The fairy-tale ending was assured; I’d found the one I’d waited for. After that, we began leading separate social lives.
For me, it was about the difference in our life stages rather than our age gap, but I believed that the strength of our bond could see us through.
I anticipated an old-fashioned disapproving glance from my mother, but even she was smiling. Here I was, the woman who thought she’d never be a wife, about to tie the knot with a man young enough to be her son. We married in 2010 and our guests told us it was one of the best weddings they’d ever attended.
Many widowers have been married to only one spouse.
Many have been married for several years—in some cases, more than forty years.
A lot of older widowers have grown children; in fact, many may even be grandfathers. Widowers often need a woman’s touch around the house.
They might be used to a wife who did all the domestic things for them, such as the laundry, grocery shopping, cooking, or even fixing a running toilet.